Empowering the coaching relationship

Coach and coachee have lifes that are for the most part separate but overlap at the point of the session. Both exist in an environment eg organisational; cultural expectation

The brain is split between the analytical and the spiritual / creative

We try and find a herd we're similar to. But there's a part of us that wants to be different from everyone else. This is a judgement process - This is OK - unless the judgement is out of control.

When we first start coaching we do alot of comparing and contrasting - judging

When we're more experienced we get to see that we're all, in essence, the same. The difference is the envirionment.

Judgement can be positive.

Separate the person from the action.

To avoid judging ask exploratory questions. It doesn't matter what we think. But help them unravel as they 'draw' their conversation.

In looking at a kids picture don't say "it's beatiful" simply explore and acknowledge. " It's wonderful that you think it's great."
We only think that we're not imperfect because of others - if we were on a desert island we'd think that we were perfect.

Being silent with someone can be a positive.

Let people be uncomfortable, hurt, sad, cry - just create the space - don't put your arm around them.

Should we seek praise?