commitment vs trying 1

We’re always committed

Unconscientious commitment UAC

We even make sure we have friends around us who agree with our reasons.

There is a lot of power in becoming honest with yourself about why you do things the way you do: This is the key to living a powerful peaceful fulfilling life.
The opposite of living an ‘examined’ life (Socrates) life is living as a victim of life.

You don’t have to be complaining to be drifting and a victim.

You might think that choices have been removed by fate. However, there are always choices no matter what the circumstances.

Applying the model

Don’t use these insights to disempower – don’t judge yourself harshly for them. The purpose of getting to the real commitment behind anything we do is to give ourselves free choice. You can be in control.

Trying - Often, a cover up for a UAC. We make a commitment and struggle to keep – ‘try’ leaves a backdoor.

Following through on commitments is powerful – builds confidence and trust. If we’re in a control of a UAC we can choose to do or not do something about it.

Be alert to the client’s language.

Structures

Actions need to be aligned with your goals. If so, you’re committed.

To help this process: Structure

If you’re committed you’ll put in place a structure to make the time etc available. You’ll welcome it.

Tools

Use a scale of 1-10 and ask…..

Are you motivated? How do you feel? What would you feel like? How much commitment have you put in?

Now, ask, ‘What can we do to make it 10 out of 10.

What action would you be willing to take this week? Is there any resentment?
Now, introduce structure such as accountability email etc

‘I’m going to get a 100 clients’ is something we can’t ultimately control

‘I’m going to make a hundred contacts’ is something we can control

Listen to positive UAC’s

Last Session: Completion session – note all acknowledgements – celebrate.

Then if applicable, suggest other goals it’d be worthwhile to work together.

What are 3 things in your life that you have committed to and achieved.

1. Emigrating to Australia
2. Playing bagpipes
3. Passing my driving test

What are 3 things you have been trying to achieve for a long time but haven’t yet?

1. Daily time with God in prayer
2. Going back to the UK, Bradford
3. My filing

Why have you been able to achieve the things in qu 1 and not in qu 2

Motivation; Real commitment
Qu 2 commitments can be a ‘dream stick’
A vision – a destination

What structures do you have in place to support your commitments?

Accountability
Surround yourself with people who won’t reinforce your negative commitment

Can you think of UAC’s you might have which empower you and make your life better?

Integrity – deliver what I promise
Belief in order
I’m responsible for who I am