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Confidence grows with validation

Being in the game eg analogy of being a substitute sitting on the bench of a football game. We'd feel we were valued less.

Measure of success of a coaching session should be exhilaration, fun. learning not just do we have another session agreed to... If we have a bad session simply learn from it.

Managing expectations is important for your confidence; have confidence in the coaching process. Take the pressure off yourself as being the expert. We just one of the players.

What is a 'a- ha' moment? It is difficult to describe. Don't build your confidence around the frequency of an 'a-ha' moment.

If we had more confidence what would you do?

Rejection is something we make up in our head. Therefore why fear it?

The best way to sell our coaching is to find out what problems people have and whether our 'product' can help. If not, send the coachee to someone who can.

Be aware that our experience need only be a day ahead of our coachee!

Module notes:

Confidence: Based on life experiences and simply who we are

Writing your biography
The simpler the better - 2/3 paragraphs
major life and career changes tell an interesting story

Professional photos
A picture can say a thousand words and lend credibility
Our choice of clothing, facial expression and pose all provide information - expresses who you are
Your picture can be used on letterheads; business cards; website etc

Testimonials
They help a prospective client see that you have helped someone else
It can be as simple as a couple of lines. We need permission to use it and id information - full name; job title; company name and city


Testimonial Tips

STARR
Situation
Task
Activity
Results
Recommendation

Most clients are happy for a coach to do some edits; to send it back and confirm.
Start collecting positive emails
Offer a free coaching session so they become one of your very first clients.

Reframing your personal perspective

How comfortable do you feel five minutes before a coaching session? Are you comfortable enough to invite ALL of your friends and colleagues. If you feel that people have serious problems which MUST be fixed you might feel some pressure or reluctance as a coach to move forward.

Typical perspectives that disempower coaches include:

I MUST convince them that I'm worthy
I MUST keep them as a client
I MUST make sure I get them as a client
If I don't know what to say I'll look stupid
This client is counting on me!What if I let them down?
If I give wrong advice I'll feel terrible
I don't know enough yet. One day I'll be a good coach
I really hope I'll impress this person with my coaching

Notice how much attention is on YOU instead of focusing on the client and what's best for them

eg's of reframed perspectives that empower coaches

The client must live their own life; I'll support them the nest way I can
The client gets the credit and is also responsible for their own actions
I create value by being there, being present
Every session is an exploration of possibilities
I give up my need to control everything and I am ready to be in the flow
I'm going to have FUN in every session