Truth vs Fraud

Fraud - a lie or withholding information

Don't have people drawn to a 'front' - If so, we become resentful, lonely. People need to access the real you - we're real when we tell the truth. The cost of lying can be living a lie. It takes significant energy to tell a lie.

We fear
1. Losing a friend
2. Being seen as imperfect
3. Hurting other people's feelings
4. Judgment

Telling the tuth
1. Freedom - nothing to hide
2. Being a model
3. True acceptance and real love

Perception is reality and reality is out truth. Whether to tell the truth or not will always be measured by the consequences we have to face.

Tuth vs Opinion - is simply a thought held by one or more individuals. Our opinions are based on our beliefs and can change depending on new information.

Truth vs Honesty - honesty is a moral issue. It is a personal interpretation of right or wrong.

If we're not telling the truth:
* I feel like something is missing
* I feel this isn't adding up
* What evidence do you have that this is true?
* What makes you think that?

Note: Therapist as lifecoach by Patrick Williams

Sometimes we have to give time - ask clients to check in with their heart,

Use imagery eg See behind a door eg Climbing a ladder what do you see?

Our truth (internal) vs The truth (external)

Relief is a feeling coming from truth - authentic self

Secrets vs Discretion

Truth vs Openess

Issue: When the client isn't true to theirself

Our response can be: I'm noticing that you're drained, pausing etc; Are you feeling comfortable with this situation?