Game vs Significance

Perspective: Take different photos of the same object. Ask people to describe their perspective.

Evidence of significance: Long time to answer questions; negative self talk.

We can ask permission to lighten the moment.

Cross cultural: Learned ways we do things; set of UAC's that provide structure.

Different cultures have a different approach to goals. Therefore, call them something else - in their language or context.

Respect goes a long way - non-judgemental

People are passionate about something - it's just that we have different passions - different expressions but the sources are the same. Life themes are the same. Different cultures can offer a different perspective.

Use a value exploration at the beginning. Ask who do they most admire: 3 people and their qualities. Are these then important to you.

Questions: What if something didn't happen? What would it look like?

Note: Obviously there are times when we do not 'play' eg death; divorce

Strategy to move from significance to game: Frustration to Fascination

Notes:

It can disempower us to get significant or to take ourselves too seriously.

Reframing: We're terrified of failing. However, if failing during a game you're still in ACTION - You're in the game.

Lightening - 'What is the worst thing that could happen?' ... can lift some of the burden.

It could also provide perspective as to when and with whom the significance seems to be the strongest. By tracking the situations where significance is playing a big role we can begin to see a pattern. Once the pattern is discovered, we can take action towards changing that pattern and start to lighten the situation.

Getting over significance of coaching and lightening up - as a new coach marketing is key. Avoid the hard sell and become an ambassador for coaching.

Create a game around how many people you can let know about coaching. Also, create a game to see how many trial rejections you can get!